Letting Go of Perfectionism
Last updated: October 2023
How does one let go of the idea of perfectionism? With today's world and so much social media, how is it not difficult to compare yourself to others? It’s important for my mental health that I don’t do the comparisons, I did that at one time and I was in a horrible place mentally.
Letting some things go
So what did I do? The first thing I did, was cut out social media. I barely have been on Facebook since 2018, and really only go on to check my memories, my advocacy work and to see what my family and friends are up too.
However, I no longer follow anything or anyone that is going to affect me mentally. I realized that a lot of social media is made up of filters and people speaking behind a screen.
We don’t have to be perfect all the time. It’s okay to prioritize differently and give ourselves permission to let some things go.
At the end of the day, what’s most important is our mental health and well-being. So, if you’re struggling with perfectionist tendencies, take a step back and ask yourself if you are prioritizing your mental health or trying to be perfect. What truly matters to you?
You don’t have to be perfect, things don’t have to be perfect, and you don’t have to live in a pristine environment all the time. After all, a little mess never hurts anyone – but chronic stress and anxiety can have serious long-term effects.
I’ve also learned to let go of some of my perfectionist tendencies. At one point in my life, I felt like everything had to be perfect before I went to bed. Such as making sure the house was organized and in order all the time. The laundry being folded once it’s done.
Before letting go of perfectionism, I used to think both of these things were SO important, when in fact they aren’t more important than my rest or my mental health.
Prioritizing mental health
I’ve begun to realize and let things go in order to prioritize my mental health and wellbeing. Instead of folding the laundry that day, I might pivot and close the door and simply go outside for a nice walk and get some fresh air.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if everything is perfect, what matters is how I feel about myself and my choices.
Have you or a loved one ever struggled with perfectionism and it's impact on mental health? Do you have any tips for others in the NMO community?
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